Describe Yourself in Five Words

By Thursday, September 22, 2016

Leigh and I were sitting with a friend over the weekend when the conversation turned to one of our posts from last week; the doozy about Leigh’s journey to uncover who she really is.

After a very brief rundown from Leigh, highlighting her new discoveries, our friend recalled a post she read over at Cup of Jo about Nora Ephron. It just so happens Leigh watched a documentary on her a few weeks ago and has since been heard daily quoting her, “Everything is copy”. Needless to say, Leigh has spent the last month being obsessed with Nora Ephron.

The post our friend read included this quote from Nora:

“We have a game we play when we’re waiting for tables in restaurants, where you have to write the five things that describe yourself on a piece of paper. When I was [in my twenties], I would have put: ambitious, Wellesley graduate, daughter, Democrat, single. Ten years later not one of those five things turned up on my list. I was: journalist, feminist, New Yorker, divorced, funny. Today not one of those five things turns up in my list: writer, director, mother, sister, happy.”

Needless to say, we played the game. Obviously it was hard for Leigh to move beyond the description of herself as consciousness and awareness – but she managed. My five words at this point in my life are: mother, wife, eager, unsettled, energetic. I am fascinated to see what five words I use to describe myself in ten years. Leigh’s five words: loyal, energetic, optimistic, garrulous, intuitive.

The game took a turn, we moved on to describing ourselves with three fictional characters. We sat blankly for a bit, then started calling out movie characters. Ultimately, it was easier and funnier to come up with answers for each other. My three fictional characters to describe Leigh: Elaine from Seinfeld, the Road Runner and the chef from the Muppets:

The singing, dancing and overcooked meatballs are reminiscent of Leigh in the kitchen.

Leigh started suggesting really stupid characters for me, like Cher in Moonstruck, so we benched her.

It’s a fun game to play, we think you should pull it out at your next dinner party. Even more interesting is playing it with your kids.


For more amazing nuggets of wisdom from Nora Ephron, jump to this post at Man Repeller, An Ode to Nora Ephron and her Words.

Another fun game to play at your next dinner party.

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